Introducing Advice Column Dear Daddy

Submit your questions to Open Secrets Magazine's new advice columnist

Welcome to Dear Daddy, an advice column graciously hosted by Open Secrets.

I’m Daddy.

More specifically: I’m an author, a divorced dad, and a queer Dom. I’m also an avid cook and fitness enthusiast. That’s as specific as I’m going to get, other than to say I’m in love with advice columns, after years of religiously reading the guidance offered at places like Dear Prudence and Dear Sugar.

I’ve always dreamt of writing one, and I’m deeply thankful to Rachel Kramer Bussel for offering me this opportunity.

Why Daddy? It’s an honorarium within the kink space that appeals to me, as I’ve always relished and respected the caretaker role it implies. Outside of that space, I have served as a divorce whisperer, and work with novice writers seeking to navigate the publishing industry.

I just like helping people, in acknowledgement of both my experiences and my limitations. Now I’d like to try it on a wider scale. I hope that within the anonymity offered to me by the sobriquet, I can come from an honest, thoughtful place that puts the focus on the person seeking counsel. And I hope that others can find comfort or commonalities within that.

I’d like to use this column to explore… whatever you want to ask. Publishing, sex, kink, relationships, parenting, etiquette, fitness—I’m open to anything.

Open Secrets Magazine is home to memorably, revealing personal essays about all the subjects we’re taught to keep “secret.” I hope to work within that mission from a place of care and kindness.

But I know I have to earn your trust. So I’m humbly inviting a few of you to submit some questions, at deardaddyopensecrets@gmail.com, to get this ball rolling. Your secrets are safe with me; letters will be published pseudonymously.

I’ll take a few of those questions and answer them next month, and hopefully, it’ll be the start of something special. If not, I’ll be glad that I tried.