Dear One, when a family member is a narcissist, and we facilitate their non-reciprocal (and often cruel) behavior, we become doormats. Hurting, bewildered, resentful, bitter, doormats.
There is a wealth of helpful commentary and advice out there on how to value ourselves, only build relationships that contain respect and reciprocity, and stop showing up for people who never show up for us (TikTok is especially good for this).
To unlearn ingrained patterns it will take many years of doing things differently!
You’ve taken the first step (congratulations!), and if you want to shed the bitterness and gain the confidence needed to guide others in how to treat you appropriately (because I’m guessing this is an issue beyond just your sister), it is time to reprogram how you show up in the world. Best wishes.
I’m praying (and rooting) for 2026 to finally be your year. Also, I will pray that your sister finds this, your explanation, and apologizes for all the heartache she has given you. 🙏
Thank you for sharing your experience. It’s so difficult but ultimately liberating to choose yourself first. I’m on the same journey.
Dear One, when a family member is a narcissist, and we facilitate their non-reciprocal (and often cruel) behavior, we become doormats. Hurting, bewildered, resentful, bitter, doormats.
There is a wealth of helpful commentary and advice out there on how to value ourselves, only build relationships that contain respect and reciprocity, and stop showing up for people who never show up for us (TikTok is especially good for this).
To unlearn ingrained patterns it will take many years of doing things differently!
You’ve taken the first step (congratulations!), and if you want to shed the bitterness and gain the confidence needed to guide others in how to treat you appropriately (because I’m guessing this is an issue beyond just your sister), it is time to reprogram how you show up in the world. Best wishes.
I’m praying (and rooting) for 2026 to finally be your year. Also, I will pray that your sister finds this, your explanation, and apologizes for all the heartache she has given you. 🙏
I truly hope 2026 is your year! 🙏🏻❤️