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Janine Agoglia's avatar

The book that saved me was by Lindsay C. Gibson, called "Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents." I have never felt so seen by a book before. It might help you too.

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Joy DeSomber's avatar

I sat next to you on the uncomfortable seat, riding on the roller coaster I, too, didn’t want to be on but that felt achingly familiar, every bump and jerk hitting the same bruised places. Thank you for sharing this; I smile crookedly in my awkward way because this is familiar and it’s unsettling to know that there are others like me in the world. You said it beautifully.

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April Raine's avatar

I can't believe this was what I opened in my recommendations on Mother's Day from my substack emails. I'm so devastated and horrified that I had to wait until Fathers Day to even write about it.

I think this is awful energy to put out there into the world this day. The title and picture was misleading because I lost my Mother after years of clashing with her only to reconnect and bond in her later years and now no longer have a childhood home to go to, and my guilt is what I would do to have her around to take care of again, like she took care of ne as an infant and child.

This article comes from a disgusting place of privilege and unappreciation for what you have and who you have in your life still, and you should be ashamed. I guarantee you will feel differently when she's not on this earth. I'm broken hearted reading this on Mother's Day. I'm glad my children know they are loved and appreciated, and what we are going through any of us would do anything to my Mother, or both parents back with us! I would think you may want to try helping your Mom through her trauma because you probably mean the world to her.

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