Thank you for such an honest and vulnerable story. I'm raising a son with ADHD, and he also has the hyperfocus, along with hyperactivity. It was challenging until he got diagnosed just a few months ago, and while it's still challenging, knowing that it's not his fault has helped a lot. We're still navigating and finding ways to support him better, but your story gives me hope.
For a person with late diagnosed ADHD, this was such a hard but moving read. Somewhere I felt guilty about the frustration I must have caused my loved ones, especially my mother. She also passed away from cancer and I was her primary caregiver. There is so much to relate in this piece and I share this pain in strange ways but also I feel grateful that I had someone who loved me so sincerely. I am sure the writer does too. Thank you for being vulnerable enough for sharing this story. It is moving, painful, powerful and hopeful at the same time.
My husband and one of our sons, maybe both, have ADHD as well and the frustration for me is that they both know it yet refuse to do anything about it. My son was on meds until he turned 18, then decided to self-medicate with beer and pot.
My husband refuses to accept that he even has it, yet he has all the traits. It's weird because he takes great care of me and our finances, but other things he does make me wonder how he gets through the day. He is also a big calender user and meticulous note-taker taker, especially at work. I don't make a deal out of it because it causes problems and if I can't even get him to wear his hearing aids, how can I fight him on understanding his issues? He thinks ADHD is a made-up ailment and never wanted our son on the meds, he did it for me and because the school made us.
I know this must have been so painful for you to share, but thanks for doing it. More people will recognize that some family member has it and might help them understand better what they are dealing with.
Thank you for such an honest and vulnerable story. I'm raising a son with ADHD, and he also has the hyperfocus, along with hyperactivity. It was challenging until he got diagnosed just a few months ago, and while it's still challenging, knowing that it's not his fault has helped a lot. We're still navigating and finding ways to support him better, but your story gives me hope.
For a person with late diagnosed ADHD, this was such a hard but moving read. Somewhere I felt guilty about the frustration I must have caused my loved ones, especially my mother. She also passed away from cancer and I was her primary caregiver. There is so much to relate in this piece and I share this pain in strange ways but also I feel grateful that I had someone who loved me so sincerely. I am sure the writer does too. Thank you for being vulnerable enough for sharing this story. It is moving, painful, powerful and hopeful at the same time.
Love this essay, Lori. Thanks for sharing your story! I think it will help so many readers who can relate.
My husband and one of our sons, maybe both, have ADHD as well and the frustration for me is that they both know it yet refuse to do anything about it. My son was on meds until he turned 18, then decided to self-medicate with beer and pot.
My husband refuses to accept that he even has it, yet he has all the traits. It's weird because he takes great care of me and our finances, but other things he does make me wonder how he gets through the day. He is also a big calender user and meticulous note-taker taker, especially at work. I don't make a deal out of it because it causes problems and if I can't even get him to wear his hearing aids, how can I fight him on understanding his issues? He thinks ADHD is a made-up ailment and never wanted our son on the meds, he did it for me and because the school made us.
I know this must have been so painful for you to share, but thanks for doing it. More people will recognize that some family member has it and might help them understand better what they are dealing with.