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Rachel Kramer Bussel's avatar

Amy, this made me laugh and relate, as someone who used to peer down the subway tracks wondering why the train hadn’t arrived yet and how much longer I’d have to wait. Part of why I started Open Secrets was to have a publishing project that could move as quickly as my mind. Congratulations on the new book and sorry publishing is such a slow process!

shannon kennedy's avatar

This was wonderful! One of my laughable strategies to hurry up my husband is to stare at him as if I was watching an episode of Mrs. Wiggins & Mr. Tudball on Carol Burnett! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SBx-9RsnpVE. A pastor of a Presbyterian congregation was asked by the committee deciding his job security, "What is the most important message to bring to our congregation?" He answered..."To slow down". He lost his job as they were looking for a quick answer..."God"! Thank you for the reminder and wisdom!

Maleah Grover-McKay's avatar

I also belong to the "perpertually impatient." Wasn't so bad when I was a cardiologist but not great for my kids...Still hard to slow down. Keeping on it, though. Thanks for your piece as a great reminder for daily life and for a peek at what lies ahead in writing and publishing a book.

Amy L Bernstein's avatar

Oh, you are in for a world of slow in publishing. Time to locate your patience gene!

Maleah Grover-McKay's avatar

Think I’ll need gene therapy 😝

Amy L Bernstein's avatar

I'll splice that right in for ya.

Natasha's avatar

I resonated with this piece so much. Perpetually impatient. You didn't extend the essay to time wasted in meetings but that could be a topic all on its own

Amy L Bernstein's avatar

Oh, I did, though! Near the beginning of the piece...Time wasted in meetings is one of my biggest pet peeves!

The World According to Grace's avatar

My husband is always waiting on me to leave, and by the way, I'm on time! He gets ready early and then wants to leave early. LOL. Patience is something I was graced with and he was not. But, he has other gifts, so there you go. :)

Amy L Bernstein's avatar

It's always somethin'! :)

Dianne Moritz's avatar

Patience is a virtue I never had. Once at an interview for a teaching job in Chinatown, LA, the principal made endless small talk. Finally I said, "Do you have any questions?" I got the job, but didn't take it.

Unfortunately, the writing game moves at a snail's pace, which I hate, but have accepted now. Perhaps because I am more invested in the outcome. Who knows?

Still, people who don't do what they say they will, ones who keep me waiting, those who don't arrive on time irritate the hell out of me. And editors who don't respond?? Don't get me started on their rudeness.

Amy L Bernstein's avatar

Oh, yes, Diane. And the endless, aimless small talk....? I know people are being friendly, or covering their own nervousness, but when I'm not my best (radically empathetic) self, the small talk drives me nuts. Get to the point, already, will ya??

Dianne Moritz's avatar

Especially during interviews and other "important" instances......YES, yes, yes!

Vincent O'Keefe's avatar

Loved this! And congrats on the novel. I especially like your mantra about learning "to value the marathon over the sprint." The older I get, the more those words resonate.

Amy L Bernstein's avatar

If advancing age teaches us anything, it's learning how to go the distance...without racing through it all. Thanks for reading!

Stephen Turnbull's avatar

This speaks to me - and I have to confess I have has less success at assuaging my impatience.

Amy L Bernstein's avatar

Yeah, well, I'm still trying...!!! Some days I'm more patient than others.