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“I could shelve my own sentimentalities and give her what she should never have to ask for.” This might be my new definition of parenting in crisis. Another powerful piece!

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thank you so much, Tanya <3 that means the world!

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My heart goes out to you. My daughter passed in 2007, age 5, of a glioblastoma located at the pons of her brain.

Her ashes and favourite bear, “Tigwa” a polar bear are on a shelf in my home office.

You are not a bad mom. You are a woman who is doing the best she can with an unfathomable situation.

I wrote a book about my daughter, Alexandra’s journey to help parents going through the experience and the grief.

I hope Carolyn’s outcome is not like Alexandra’s. My heart and prayers are with you.

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Thinking of you, Patricia, and of Alexandra. Not a day goes by when I don't think of all my friends and all the parents who have lost their children to cancer. It's so unfair and I'm so sorry. Thank you for sharing Alexandra's story <3

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Thank you for your kind words. I would never want you to feel bad that your daughter is still here and mine is not. 💜 I do not feel that way at all. She taught me so much in her five years. I am nothing but grateful for her presence in my life.

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This was such a heart wrench of a read. Elizabeth, wow and thank you for every exhilarating poignant word 💖

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thank you so, so much <3

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Dear Elizabeth, this is written so beautifully. I actually listen to it and felt my heart pounding. This is such a familiar story and many ways.

Carolyn and snuffle bunny so sweet.

Thank you for all that you do. This piece had a beautiful transmission. I appreciate you and your family. Thank you.

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Thank you so much <3

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What an honest, raw, beautiful story. Thank you for sharing.

I'll just be over here picking up the tiny pieces of my broken heart.

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❤️❤️❤️

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This essay is gorgeous and heartbreaking. I'm so happy your Carolyn is thriving. Tell her a stranger on the internet hopes she gives Snuffle Bunny a big hug.

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thank you, from both of us (and Snuffle Bunny)!

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As the mother of a daughter with cystic fibrosis, who has watched my friends lose their daughters to the same disease, I held my breath reading this. Your writing is beautiful and I’m so glad your daughter is doing well. Those hospital days stay with you, don’t they?

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Oh, they stay, and it's so hard to explain....but you truly never forget it. Her hospital room is the easiest thing to call to mind and has been for a while- I can even still smell it.

Sending love to you and your daughter <3

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This piece is one of the most beautiful things I've read in a while. And it's terrible too, of course. "When the ER doctor looked into my face, her eyes like two small worlds . . ." Sending love to you and your daughter and Snuffle Bunny.

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well now I'm crying, thank you <3

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Oh, Elizabeth. I don't know you or your daughter (or Snuffle), but I feel like I do after reading your essay. I have not lost a child, but my parents lost two (both my sisters), so I have a different perspective, no less painful and encompassing. All love, light, prayers, and strength to the three of you.

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I'm so sorry for your loss of your sisters and for what your family went through. Sending light and love your way <3

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Beautiful and captivating. It’s left me longing to know how your daughter is doing today.

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Thank you so much, I'm relived to share that she is a thriving 13 year old!

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I can’t imagine going through this with your child. I have gone through it with my mother-in-law, but that is different. Of course you aren’t a bad mom, how could you know what to expect or anything else?

I love your writing style, how you assimilate and make us feel like we are right there going through it with you.

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thank you so much, Kim <3

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Stunning, in every sense of the word.

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Thank you 💕

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This is so beautiful and so moving. I had a brother who passed at 2 years old (I was 10) due to heart defect and it was devastating and life changing for me - but painful on a whole other level for my mom. Thank you for sharing your story. I am relieved to see in your comments that she is a thriving 13 year old:)

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thank you, I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I'm sending you lots of warmth and healing thoughts <3

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Thanks so much. It has been many years but I think of him often and am grateful for the time I did have with him and beautiful memories and photos. he is always in my heart, a beautiful angel.

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